“Today I will meet cruel, cowards and liars, envious and drunkards. They will be such because they do not know what is good from what is bad. This is evil that has fallen on them not on me. They are compassionate.”
A CS Lewis book, Til We Have Faces, reads more like a philosophical dissertation than a fictional story. Writing this statement, what he’s actually saying is that people are going to be bad, they’re going to say things you don’t like. They could get into a jealous rage or leave you in your hour of need. But the important thing is to prevent it from angering you or bothering you anyway. Keep yourself on a higher plane. Don’t feel remorse, but instead, regret that their life is so hard that they have to react so fiercely.
When someone shows anger against you, it reflects more of their own sadness than any of your own wrongdoing. While it’s worth analyzing your own actions to make sure you’re not actually doing something wrong, it’s not worth getting angry at. Don’t be angry, instead, wonder what might be more deeply wrong with them. It’s sadder to see people bitter and knowing that you can’t do anything to help them.
Just imagine how different things would be if we could follow CS Lewis ’belief. It’s time to let go of the saying “Don’t go crazy, calm down”, and try something more like “Don’t go crazy, offer sympathy”.